Heartbroken after the loss of my cat

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Hi everyone, it's been three months now since my 17-year-old cat passed away. It's still so difficult. I'm still grieving so much and I miss him every single moment. In the mornings and evenings, I want to call out to him just like I used to; I rush through the shops so he isn't left alone for too long, like I did before; I still go to the pet aisle in the supermarket... I don't talk about it to anyone, not even my family, who don't even ask how I am anymore, even though I want to scream that I'm hurting and that I miss him so much. I kiss his photo and I smell a tuft of his fur.

I don't know when I'll start to feel better; I've run out of tears even though I have a constant lump in my throat. What can I do to get through this?

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    • Mimipiffo1973
    Mimipiffo1973 Icon representing the flag French
    Hello, I understand exactly how you feel. My darling passed away on 16th April at 4:18 am and I’ve been depressed ever since. I can’t face going home, I cry all the time, I’m not eating. He is and always will be the love of my life. Just like you, I used to rush through the shopping; we slept together, we did everything together. He was one in a million. Without him, I feel useless; he gave me everything that humans never could. I’ll never get over it. I see him everywhere, I dream about him, I keep reliving the moment he passed away in my arms, begging him to come back. He fought so hard to stay with me. He would have been 13 on 13th May. Your grief is completely normal; to hell with anyone who doesn't understand. I cry everywhere and if people don’t like it, well, that’s their problem. I’ve lost my son, my king, my life. Without him, every day feels so heavy. My heart goes out to you.
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    ProvetoJuniorConseil
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    Hi,

    What you’re feeling is deeply connected to the love and the daily life you shared with him for 17 years. Three months might seem like a “long” time to those around you, but for you, it is still very recent, and that’s completely normal: this grief is part of the bond you had with him.

    When a pet has shared so many everyday moments, their absence is felt everywhere: in the things you do without thinking, your daily routine, the silence in the house…

    Everyone grieves in their own way, and the loss of a pet shouldn't be downplayed: it can be just as painful as losing a loved one.

    In my opinion, the important thing is not to keep it all bottled up. Even if those around you don't always understand, your pain deserves to be heard.

    Take care,

    Maëlla

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