Deeply regretting adopting a puppy

CheritaChen
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Hi everyone,

I’m posting here because I really need to vent about how miserable I’ve been feeling since I adopted my female Cavalier King Charles puppy from a breeder over two months ago. Every single day I find myself wishing I could turn back time, just to get some peace of mind and a bit of sleep back. The adoption has been a disaster from the word go... I picked her up at 8 weeks old at the end of June (she’s my first dog), and I was so happy and had been looking forward to it for ages. She’s tiny, very cute, playful, and loves her food, and the first couple of days were actually quite nice. Mind you, every time we interacted, she’d bite my hands and feet really hard! I even had to order some Crocs just to protect my feet at home! I should also mention she’s quite destructive!

Since she’d only had her first jab, the breeder told me not to take her out until her booster. I followed that to the letter. By the third day, she started having loose stools (no other symptoms). I thought it was just the stress of the move, but it carried on despite giving her some digestive powder. After a week of runny tummies, I took her to the vet. They said it was a stomach bug, so we changed her food and put her on probiotics and some clay-based medicine for a week. But after that week, the loose stools were still there. So, we did a stool sample test, and the results (which took 10 days to come back!) showed she had Giardia and a bacterial infection. She was then put on a 10-day course of Panacur plus antibiotics for the bacteria.

On top of the treatment, I’ve had to disinfect my flat every single day after work, watch her like a hawk to pick up her poo immediately, and deep-clean her crate area, bowls, and bedding (I’d already lost nearly 7 lbs in just one week). Living with her is far from easy; she follows me everywhere, tries to nip my feet at every opportunity, and stops me from getting dressed by tugging at my trousers or socks. I was turning up to work every day absolutely EXHAUSTED.

It was already hell, and then, unfortunately, the Panacur treatment failed...

On the bright side, she’s cleared the bacterial infection. But because of all this, we’ve had to push back her boosters twice, and in the end, we’ve had to restart her whole vaccination course from scratch. Her booster is now booked for the 28th of August! The vet suggested taking her out in the meantime, but I’m terrified she’ll catch something nasty like Parvo or another deadly virus.

Even though I’m going through hell, I do love this little dog.

A few days ago, we started another 10-day course of Panacur, but I have a feeling it’s not going to work. I feel like by now, my flat must be infested with the parasite! Her stools haven’t changed, though luckily, other than that, she’s always been full of beans.

I’ve been trying to hold it together for two months, but I feel like I’m hitting a wall. I’m getting no enjoyment out of living with her. Cleaning up poo several times a day, constantly scrubbing everything and washing my hands... I’m starting to feel disgusted and I’m scared of catching the parasite myself. The saddest part is that I’m starting to distance myself from her; I’m hesitant to stroke or cuddle her. My hands are raw from all the washing.

In short, I’m at my wits' end and just so tired (I’m only getting 4 or 5 hours of sleep a night). I have no time to look after myself. I’m miserable; that’s the only way to describe it.

I can’t believe it, I’ve just had the worst luck...

Talking to people I know, none of them went through anything like this when they got their puppies. I never imagined it would be this hard. I should have adopted an adult dog from a rescue like the RSPCA; that was my original plan anyway... Before this, I had a rescue cat for 18 years and it was pure BLISS—we were totally in sync.

But I’ve made a huge mistake and now I have to deal with it.

My goal now is to get rid of this bloody Giardia, so if any of you have dealt with this before with a puppy, please give me some advice. I’m desperate.

Thanks for listening.

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    Hi there, Would you consider giving up your child just because they wet the bed? I highly doubt it! In my book, the whole idea of "regretting" your decision shouldn't even be on the cards. I suggest you pull yourself together and take back control. A puppy this young needs time, and they need you to put that time in. My male Cavalier was exactly the same. So was my second one. They’re 2 and 4 years old now. Right from the start, you have to find a way to dedicate plenty of time to the dog, and then gradually teach them how to be left alone. Before they were 8 months old, I never hesitated to leave the dog in the bathroom if I was out for a long stretch. When you're on your own, you just have to make it work. Around the one-year mark, I started giving them the run of the house (all 200 square metres of it). So, it’s perfectly normal for them to: - Shadow you - Nip and mouth - Chew things up You need to keep them busy and give them plenty of chew toys. Plus, she’s a female, so you’ll need to find training that's tailored to her specific needs. Good luck. P.S. This is just a forum. We aren’t there with you to see the situation firsthand, so we're just doing our best to help.
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    Hi there. How have things been going? Where are you at with it all now?
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    SiamoisGenereux2574
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    A little pup needs training; when she tries to nip your feet, give her a firm 'no'.
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    It was a long time ago now; she passed away at eight years old from a heart attack, which is common for many Boxers, but she fought so hard to survive as a puppy. We don't know where she caught that illness, but it was undoubtedly from the breeder. Just like you, we put all our energy into saving her; we couldn't think of anything else.

    Don't give up, hang in there. Best of luck!

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    CheritaChen
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    Evening Neva, Your message really moved me. Your little girl is so lucky to have you in her life :) She has put up such a fight; she’s been so brave for a puppy, and that’s all down to your unconditional love and devotion to her. Well done to both of you, because distemper can be fatal. It’s true that Giardia isn’t "much" compared to what your little one has been through, but it takes a huge physical toll on the owner, which eventually starts to affect your mental health too. Plus, it keeps coming back... I know I moan and complain (it’s just who I am! :D), but I need to vent so I can pick myself up and carry on. Ever since Alice came into my life, I haven’t given it a second thought – she comes first and she’s all I think about. I’m constantly on high alert regarding her health and I never get tired of watching her. I love her to bits, that’s for sure. Yes, of course, I let the breeder know about the Giardia right from the start. Actually, I saw in her health record that she’d already had two courses of Panacur (a wormer used for Giardia) before I adopted her, with the last one being just 10 days before she came home! Even though I knew the parasite came from the breeder, I never blamed her for it at the time because my priority then was getting Alice better, and I was looking for her expert advice. I always try to get a few different opinions besides just the vet’s. The breeder gave me a few tips but never once mentioned that it likely came from her place – she just acted as if it had nothing to do with her! :D I don’t have the energy or the will to go after the breeder; what’s done is done, and all that matters to me is treating my little girl. During the first month after the adoption, the breeder was replying to me (maybe because there was some kind of health guarantee?), but then poof! As soon as that month was up, nothing at all – radio silence! :D Anyway, one thing is certain: I’ll definitely be leaving a negative review for that breeder soon. I won’t go into all the details, but I’ll just say my experience was a total disaster and I wouldn’t recommend them. As for your little one, how did she catch distemper? Had she had her booster jab yet? Have a lovely evening, I look forward to hearing from you.
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    Don’t give up hope. Having adopted my first dog who was also so sick we nearly lost her, I know exactly how exhausting and soul-destroying it is, and how you just want to throw in the towel. But our determination to save her was stronger because we were already so attached to her. Seeing her so tired yet so full of gratitude in her loving little puppy eyes made me want to fight even harder—and I’m so glad we did. Once she was finally better after weeks of treatment, it was pure joy and all the stress was quickly forgotten. Giardia can be dealt with, but distemper was a much bigger worry for us. Back then, we didn't know what our rights were. Nowadays, you can actually take action against the breeder because the environment clearly wasn’t healthy; have you contacted them yet? Did they provide a health certificate less than a week old, as they are supposed to? If they did, get in touch with the vet who saw the puppy before you adopted it and ask why they didn’t notice the breeding setup wasn't up to standard. If they issued a clean bill of health, report them to the RCVS (Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons), as some vets turn a blind eye to dodgy breeding practices just to keep their clients—and don't be afraid to let them know. Too many owners get scammed, which only tarnishes the reputation of good breeders and vets.
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    Hi @Kikaah, Oh tell me about it, I’ve really had no luck at all... Giardia is such a stubborn parasite and I honestly don’t know if I can keep this up for another three months... I really don’t think I can, to be honest. The second course of treatment she’s on right now isn't having any effect at all. Plus, the pet insurance wouldn’t cover any of the costs I’ve had so far (over £500 already) because it all started a few days before her policy actually kicked in. As for getting some help, I don’t think anyone would want to look after my little pup for even a single day. If I asked them to spend all day picking up foul-smelling poo, they’d just tell me where to go. What worries me most is that it’ll leave her with lasting digestive issues and that her being so restless is down to the parasite causing her so much discomfort. Poor little thing... it’s such a rough start to life for her. This forum is a bit like therapy for me because I’m feeling really weighed down by it all. What a mess... unfortunately it’s not a nightmare, it’s just the sad reality. I’m so envious of people with healthy puppies! They’re so lucky. Thanks for your message. Have a good evening!
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    Kikaah
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    You haven't made a mistake, it's just been a bit of bad luck. But once they're feeling better, things will seem much clearer. ^^
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    CheritaChen
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    Hi Apolline, Thanks for taking the time to read and reply to my post. Following your advice, I’ve just ordered a steam cleaner to do the floors, the sofa, the armchair, the furniture—everything! I’d actually heard before that it was the best way to get rid of giardia in the home. I really hope this whole ordeal will be behind us soon :) Thanks a lot and speak soon!
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    Hi there,

    I completely understand that what you're going through is incredibly tough, especially as it's your first adoption. You're definitely not alone in finding those first few weeks with a puppy difficult, but the combination of health issues (particularly that persistent giardia), sleep deprivation, and typical but challenging puppy behaviours (like nipping and chewing things up) can quickly lead to physical and mental burnout.

    This obviously isn't down to a lack of effort or skill on your part; it's simply a build-up of many stressful factors that are very hard to manage all at once.

    Regarding the giardia, it’s worth noting that it’s sometimes necessary to combine several courses of Panacur with other antibiotics (your vet can confirm this), all while keeping up a strict cleaning routine—steam cleaning is particularly effective against the cysts. You could also ask for a second opinion from another vet if the infestation persists.

    Finally, please don’t hesitate to give yourself a proper break. Try to get some help, even if just for a few days, from a pet sitter or a friend, so you can take some time to look after yourself. You’ve already shown huge courage and perseverance; it’s only natural that you need some rest. Your bond with your puppy isn't broken, but you definitely need a breather for it to have a chance to grow.

    Best of luck and hang in there,

    Apolline

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