My cat only comes out at night. Will she ever venture out while I’m around?

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Hi everyone,

I adopted the lovely Odyssée nearly 3 weeks ago now :) She is nearly 2 years old and spent about a year living on the streets followed by a year in a rescue centre.

However, I still haven't actually seen her... apart from the day I brought her home.

She stays under the bed and waits until I’ve gone to bed before coming out to eat, have a wander around, play and use her litter tray.

I haven't had any issues with accidents, things being broken or scratching with her.

I see her watching me from the hallway in the evenings when I'm in bed, and I know she’s hopped onto the bed while I was "asleep".

I can stroke her without any trouble while she’s under the bed... she knows that when I offer my hand it’s time for a fuss, and she sometimes wiggles around because she loves it so much.

Tonight she was purring a lot compared to other days when she was mostly just stretching her paws and kneading the base she’s on.

My other concern is that when I'm at the office all day, she doesn't come out at all (she doesn't touch her food, or very little, and I have a pet cam to alert me if she moves). She might come out when I'm out, but more so if I go out in the evening.

I can approach her easily when she’s under the bed, and she even comes to the edge so she can have a fuss.

At the moment, it just feels like the only place she feels safe is under the bed. On the rare occasions she sees me (because I’ve got up earlier than expected or she spots me in the bathroom), or if I get up in the night without seeing her, she bolts back to her hiding spot at lightning speed...

I’m trying to be as patient as possible, but I’m worried she’ll stay under the bed forever... the thing is, I wanted to adopt a cat to rescue her and give her plenty of love, and hope for a little bit back in return.

I really need some help knowing if she’ll ever come out from under the bed...

The vet gave me a Feliway plug-in and some capsules (just the powder) to put in her food to help her relax.

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  • Blue_Cat
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    Hi there,

    It’s clear that Odyssée was never socialised with people and she's now very much an adult. It would have been useful to know if she'd bonded with any other cats while she was at the rescue. If so, having a second cat around might help 'bring her out of her shell', even when it comes to her relationship with you.

    Over the coming weeks, she might let you get closer and closer to her. However, it would be even better if she started approaching you of her own accord. It can sometimes take a few months for an unsocialised cat to get used to their owner. Most importantly, never force any contact; the more she feels she has the choice to come to you or not, the better things will go.

    It’s rare for cats like this to stay hidden forever when people are around; it’s usually just a matter of time. That said, she might never be 100% comfortable around humans, even if she goes about her business without showing any physical signs of stress. In this case, and especially if she had made feline friends at the shelter, the best thing might be to adopt a second cat—someone sociable, easy-going, and affectionate. It would be a joy for you and would likely give her a good example to follow, even if it takes her a while (cats are great at learning by copying each other).

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