My Jack Russell is making my life a living hell

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Good evening,

I'm writing this today because I'm at my wits' end. My Jack Russell is 6 years old and he's making my life a living hell. This has been going on for about 4 years now.

When he was a puppy, he was really lovely, well-behaved and cuddly... He didn't get into as much mischief as some other Jack Russells I know. We had a very close bond; he was my little ray of sunshine (and he still is!).

Four years ago, I had some health problems that lasted for 3 years. At the start of those issues, my dog's behaviour hadn't changed, so I don't really know if it's linked or not.

It started with a growl one evening when I touched his food bowl; he didn't like it and was quite threatening. I told him off, but that was just the beginning. Bit by bit, it got worse until he started attacking me (very often). He would chase me to bite me, and I'd have to lock myself in a room to "escape" him. I know it sounds ridiculous when you say it like that, but he must have sensed my fear. I've been bitten many times; I have scars on my legs and I even had my finger sliced open, which needed stitches.

I've done everything to try and understand him; I've taken him to several vets and seen a behaviourist, but nothing helped and it's just got worse.

Despite everything, I've always been patient and I've NEVER thought about getting rid of him, even though my family and friends told me he was dangerous and that I needed to (and still need to) let him go, for my own sake but also for his. My relationship is very strained; my partner didn't want the dog anymore after he bit me right in front of him.

Our old neighbours complained about his howling; we got a note when we first moved in and then nothing. I thought it had passed, that it was just a phase at the start. In the end, the residents' association received complaints. So, I made the decision to move rather than leave my dog, because we could have stayed in that building, but only without him. To be honest, I even thought the neighbours were exaggerating because I'd never heard my Jack make noises like that.

So, we moved into a new flat, and my dog seemed more content and, above all, more relaxed. No barking, no complaints. We've been in this flat for 3 months and I finally realised this weekend that he was howling his head off whenever we weren't there. Just to be sure, I'd even closed the windows—we're on the top floor. I could hear him howling even when I was outside the building. I've felt sick about it ever since; I don't dare go out for fear of him disturbing the neighbours. I go to work with a knot in my stomach. We're happy here, the neighbours are very quiet and I'm so scared of bothering them since we're new.

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    Based on your description, your dog is in psychological distress. What advice did the behaviourist give you? You’ve made mistakes and waited four years and several bites; now that you're at the end of your tether, you're going to have to dig deep to turn things around. I’ve noticed that if you scold him for growling, you’re ignoring his warning and scolding him in return, which leads to an escalation: he growls, you tell him off, and the only way he can have the last word is by biting you. What if you just ignored him completely? It’s obviously no fun cleaning up 20 times a day, but you're passing your own frustration and stress onto a dog that's already stressed out. Have you tried Bach flower remedies? Does he get enough of an outlet for his energy? How long are his walks?

    Thanks for your reply.

    I’ve waited four years, yes and no, as I have been to see professionals during that time. The behaviourist told me to be firm with him, to say "no" when he does something he shouldn’t, and then ignore him. I did that, but nothing changed.

    As for scolding him when he growls, I’ll admit I’ve reached that stage now. But even if I don’t tell him off, he still growls when he sees me cleaning, for example. I think this situation must be making him miserable too, but I just can't seem to understand him and therefore I can't change things :(

    I haven't tried Bach flower remedies yet, but I have some in the house, so I'll try giving them to him.

    Regarding burning off energy, we do go for walks, but the problem is I can't let him off the lead very often because there's a busy main road near my house. So I’d say no, he doesn't get to let off steam like he should. We go out for about 30–40 minutes, four times a day.

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    Based on your description, your dog is in psychological distress. What advice did the behaviourist give you? You’ve made some mistakes and waited four years and several bites; now that you’re at the end of your tether, you’re going to have to hang in there to turn things around. I’ve noticed that if you tell him off for growling at you, you’re ignoring his warning and scolding him in return. That’s when things escalate: he growls, you tell him off, and biting is the only way he gets the last word. What if you just ignore him completely? I know it’s no fun cleaning up after him 20 times a day, but you’re passing your frustration and stress onto the dog, who’s already stressed enough as it is. Have you tried Bach flower remedies? Does he get enough exercise to blow off steam? How much time does he spend outdoors?
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    (Continued) My Jack has, of course, continued to attack me, biting me until I bleed (he’ll lunge at me to bite my thighs, for example). He’s losing his house-training completely despite our daily walks. To give you an idea, I had to clean the floor seven times yesterday because of all the accidents. He’s even started pooing on the walls over the last few days. Sometimes we’ll get back from a walk where he’s already done his business, but then he goes again the second we get back indoors. If I catch him in the act, I don’t even have time to say a word before he’s already growling and barking at me. All of this is just a glimpse of what we’re going through every day. I’m starting to crack; I just can’t cope anymore. I’m reaching out to you all to try and find one last solution. I’ve put up with this for four years, but I’m at my wits' end. I’m living in constant stress and even fear of being attacked. For the very first time, I’m telling myself that if I don’t find an urgent solution, I’m going to have to give him up, and the thought of it makes me feel sick—I don’t want to, I really can’t! I know I must be making so many mistakes with him, and I’ve reached the point where I’m losing my temper. I genuinely want to learn, but I’m asking for help before I completely snap, which feels like it could happen at any moment. Thank you so much.
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