Severe puppy blues since he arrived

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Hi everyone!

I'm new to the forum and, not knowing what to do anymore, I'm turning to you hoping to find some answers.

So, on Saturday morning, my partner and I visited a puppy show and we came home with a 2-month-old fluffball, a Golden Retriever.

After talking to the breeder about our concerns regarding keeping a dog of this breed in a flat, she assured us it wouldn't be an issue at all.

So we bought everything he'd need for his well-being: a fabric crate for the living room with a bed and a big cushion inside, bowls, toys, lead, collar, etc. Basically, the works.

Since Sunday, we've already managed to teach him that he needs to go outside to do his business (we have a tiny private garden). He still has the odd little accident at night, but nothing serious.

He's really struggling with the lead and collar (he sulks and just freezes, but he's slowly starting to get used to it).

But since he arrived, I feel like I've made a massive mistake in adopting him. I don't feel right at all, even though I love animals.

Thoughts like taking him back to the breeder or rehoming him keep crossing my mind, despite myself. And I feel so guilty about it.

Maybe it's because of how much our lives have been turned upside down.

My partner hasn't been back to her driving theory classes yet; she's going to try going for an hour and leaving him alone, but I can already imagine the chaos.

The idea of joining a gym doesn't seem possible anymore either. I feel like we have no time for ourselves.

At night and in the morning, he howls and cries when we leave him in the living room to sleep. I tried giving him a hot water bottle to remind him of the warmth of his littermates, but nothing works.

When I finally go to see him after 15 minutes (at 1 am... the neighbours must be fuming), he’s so happy and rushes to my feet, staying glued to me or following me everywhere if I move.

It breaks my heart to put him back in his crate and tell him to stay, only to hear him crying as soon as the door is shut.

I’d love to take him into bed with us to comfort him, but I know if I give in, his training will be ruined.

I find it hard to be firm with him, to say "no" when he’s being hyper even if he’s being naughty. I feel bad afterwards because, in the end, he just melts my heart.

But I just feel terrible...

This Saturday morning, we're taking him to a puppy training class, hoping to learn a lot.

What should I do? Can you give me some advice, please?

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    "If you think Dellys is staying calm after that barrage of insults, fine."

    But do you really think you've stayed calm?

    Are you saying you haven't been throwing insults about?

    As for me, considering all the attacks, I think I've been pretty calm. Mind you, I was being sarcastic, but that was specifically to try and keep my cool for as long as possible.

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    "By comparing puppies to babies, some people realise just how off the mark they are... It isn’t even meant to be harsh; it’s just a way of illustrating the point."

    Exactly, Célineo – when I explained that you can't expect a 2-month-old puppy to be house-trained and drew a parallel with a human baby, I don't see what the issue is?

    It’s perfectly logical.

    I wasn’t being aggressive at any point; I was just giving an explanation.

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    Yeah, because despite my repeated requests and having basically done all the legwork for you, you still haven't pointed out the quote that was supposedly so "hurtful" to you.

    It’s absolute rubbish, a total sham, and nothing else. The proof is in how passive you've been, refusing to revisit the subject that triggered this foul behaviour of yours.

    Right now, the person who’s backed into a corner—even if you’ll never admit it—is you.

    Your little game of nitpicking over spelling mistakes proves it; it’s so petty it’s actually embarrassing.

    Anything just to avoid the actual facts.

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    "Otherwise, stop making a complete fool of yourself with your utter stupidity." There you go, Axelote, that’s one of your remarks...
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    Well exactly, mate; when you push someone to their absolute limit, you shouldn't be surprised by the backlash.......

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    Célineo, you've got the wrong person there; I’ve never compared anyone to hyenas or anything of the sort.

    Mind you, you’re confusing information shared in a discussion with information conveyed through an advert. It’s not the same approach or the same way of doing things at all.

    In a discussion, there’s an exchange of opinions, views, and so on. In advertising, a point is put across with the aim of hitting the mark quickly and effectively. The information isn’t necessarily accurate (take the ads about the Millennium bug, for example).

    If you think Dellys is keeping her cool after that barrage of insults, then so be it.

    It just goes back to that comment in another post about “Dellys and her sheep...”

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    That’s a bit rich coming from her, after her “morons”, “knuckle-draggers”, “cretins”, “idiots” and I’ve probably missed a few...

    Apparently calling someone “fat” is so much more offensive... ...

    ...

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    And there we go, another member (Axelote) reported to the site admins. I’ve no time for insults.

    We can discuss the etymology of any word you like; I love the subject. But I don't think it would be worth my while doing it with you.

    "Stirring up animosity doesn't help anyone retain information. That’s the first time I’ve heard such absolute nonsense!

    Don't conflate information shared through a shock advert with information presented as a direct, crushing attack on someone."

    Information can be conveyed through images, words, videos, and so on. It’s often through shocking images that we really grasp certain messages. We remember things because of shocking writing. I’m thinking particularly of the heartbreaking articles about Galgos or certain reports on bullfighting. There's nothing gentle or sympathetic about them. That doesn't take away from the empathy we can feel elsewhere; I was simply commenting on how information is delivered.

    By drawing parallels between puppies and babies, some people realise just how far off the mark they are... It’s not even aggressive, just a way of illustrating a point.

    And yes... your subsequent posts depend on how everyone else replies. But we’re all in the same boat. Anyone can get reactive or emotional. In fact, those are the moments when you can judge someone's composure; and while you start hurling insults, Dellys stays calm.

    Oh, and regarding the hyenas, if that was aimed at me... I find the species fascinating, a bit like sharks, so thank you for the compliment! :)

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    Hahahaha

    It’s exactly when you’ve run out of any valid arguments that you stoop to being vulgar and insulting, and you’re a perfect example of that, @Axelote ...........

    The mask is slipping!......

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    "Axelote, it's time for your herbal tea :)"

    You’ll need to work on your material, love, you’ve already used that one on us.

    You’re repeating yourself.

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