Severe puppy blues since he arrived

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Hi everyone!

I'm new to the forum and, not knowing what to do anymore, I'm turning to you hoping to find some answers.

So, on Saturday morning, my partner and I visited a puppy show and we came home with a 2-month-old fluffball, a Golden Retriever.

After talking to the breeder about our concerns regarding keeping a dog of this breed in a flat, she assured us it wouldn't be an issue at all.

So we bought everything he'd need for his well-being: a fabric crate for the living room with a bed and a big cushion inside, bowls, toys, lead, collar, etc. Basically, the works.

Since Sunday, we've already managed to teach him that he needs to go outside to do his business (we have a tiny private garden). He still has the odd little accident at night, but nothing serious.

He's really struggling with the lead and collar (he sulks and just freezes, but he's slowly starting to get used to it).

But since he arrived, I feel like I've made a massive mistake in adopting him. I don't feel right at all, even though I love animals.

Thoughts like taking him back to the breeder or rehoming him keep crossing my mind, despite myself. And I feel so guilty about it.

Maybe it's because of how much our lives have been turned upside down.

My partner hasn't been back to her driving theory classes yet; she's going to try going for an hour and leaving him alone, but I can already imagine the chaos.

The idea of joining a gym doesn't seem possible anymore either. I feel like we have no time for ourselves.

At night and in the morning, he howls and cries when we leave him in the living room to sleep. I tried giving him a hot water bottle to remind him of the warmth of his littermates, but nothing works.

When I finally go to see him after 15 minutes (at 1 am... the neighbours must be fuming), he’s so happy and rushes to my feet, staying glued to me or following me everywhere if I move.

It breaks my heart to put him back in his crate and tell him to stay, only to hear him crying as soon as the door is shut.

I’d love to take him into bed with us to comfort him, but I know if I give in, his training will be ruined.

I find it hard to be firm with him, to say "no" when he’s being hyper even if he’s being naughty. I feel bad afterwards because, in the end, he just melts my heart.

But I just feel terrible...

This Saturday morning, we're taking him to a puppy training class, hoping to learn a lot.

What should I do? Can you give me some advice, please?

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    You're being vague, explain yourself better... I didn't miss the point; I was replying about the link between house-training a puppy and potty training a human baby, that’s ALL! But what topic?! The topic is right there in black and white: 'It breaks my heart to put him back in his crate and tell him to stay, only to hear him crying once the door is shut.' It absolutely wasn't about the puppy needing the toilet!
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    ""I’m asking you to point out the 'aggressive' part of my first post.""

    If you don’t even realise the aggressive tone you used, that’s quite worrying.........

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    That kind of remark is pure speculation, just to avoid admitting you’re in the wrong! You’re dodging the issue again! Thanks for the example!

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    "I’m asking you what the connection is between toileting and crying at night, and you’re either dodging the question or just making up an answer for @Kel-Morian (even though their post is right at the top of every page in this thread!)"

    You’re being vague, explain yourself better...

    I didn’t miss the point; I was responding to the correlation between toilet training a puppy and a human baby, that’s ALL!

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    "I was saying it's normal for a puppy..."

    You weren't answering anything at all, you've just made up your own conversation there!

    Are you so blind that you can't re-read Kel-Morian's first thread?

    You're properly stubborn!

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    "I'm asking you to point out exactly which part of my first post was so 'aggressive'." If you don't even realise how aggressive your tone was, then that's quite worrying.........
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    Célinéo, it’s the word ‘Hyena’ that I don’t understand.

    Where did you get that from?

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    No, you’re dodging the question.

    I’m asking you to point out exactly which part of my first post was so aggressive. The result? ****** all.

    I’m asking what the connection is between them needing the toilet and the crying at night, and you’re either sidestepping the question or just making up a response from @Kel-Morian (even though their post is at the top of every page in this thread!).

    I’m asking you to give me links to the definitions of the words you think you know and, once again, ****** ALL.

    It’s not a case of ‘not playing my game’, it’s more like putting your tail between your legs and acting like nothing’s happened just so you can keep making a scene.

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    I was just saying that it’s normal for a puppy (just like a human baby) to have accidents because they’re still in the middle of being house-trained.

    You’re seriously getting your knickers in a twist over NOTHING – and I mean absolutely nothing!

    And you’ve no right to tell me whether or not I can post on a thread.

    It would be like me telling you to shut it right now.

    It would be completely out of order.

    Just like your comment was.

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    Which part of "someone else" don't you understand? You must be having trouble with the definition, hehe!

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    Dellys, what I’m reading—and it’s right there in their first post—is: "Since Sunday, we’ve already managed to teach him that he needs to go outside (we have a tiny private garden). He still has the odd little wee at night, but it’s nothing serious."

    So, where do you see any kind of problem with that?

    Why do you feel the need to keep repeating the same point that another member has already made?

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