My partner and I adopted a little girl about two months ago. The only problem is, she's terrified of him. She started hiding more and more, and now it's impossible for him to get anywhere near her. She hides the second she hears him coming home. She slinks along the floor and leaves her food behind if she knows he's around. She just stays under the bed and won't budge. He’s put in so much effort but it's all in vain... Now, when he picks her up, she actually soils herself. I can see in her eyes how scared she is just by the sight of him, even though he’s never done anything to her... when he holds her, she's petrified and doesn't move a muscle; she just plays dead. I'm at my wits' end trying to fix things and it's honestly breaking my heart!
Has anyone ever dealt with a similar situation before?
Thanks
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Hi there, I’m in the same boat. Did you manage to sort the problem out? If so, could you please let me know how you did it? It’s a nightmare, he’s pooing everywhere.
Hi, I’d love to know how you managed to sort that situation out. I’m seeing the same thing with my cat and I’m at my wits' end. If you could drop me an email, I’d really appreciate it: sabinathan@gmail.com. Thanks.
We got her when she was two and a half months old. We took her in from some people who had already adopted her but didn’t want her anymore... She didn’t seem to be afraid of her previous owner. At first it was fine, but it’s got worse over time! I thought it might be the environment she didn’t like—the flat being too small, too much noise, etc. But when my partner leaves, as soon as the door is shut, she comes running to me. It’s as if she’s relieved that he’s gone.
Hi, I’d love to know how you managed to sort this situation out. I’m seeing the same thing with my cat and I just don’t know what to do anymore. If you wouldn’t mind, please drop me an email, it would be much appreciated: sabinathan@gmail.com thanks
Hi, I’m having the same problem with my cat. He’s peeing all over the place, and whenever my partner gets near him, my cat starts hissing at him as if he’s terrified and ends up pooing himself. When he’s been naughty and I try to tell him off, he poos himself then as well. I’ve never laid a hand on my cat, and I’m at a complete loss as to what to do to get my cat to accept my partner.
There are also things that we don’t pick up on that they do. Cats see and feel good and bad souls, or other kinds of energies that we can't really define but which influence our lives. Some cats are very sensitive to it. In Africa, healers always have a cat because they are the guardians of spirits and give signs to help protect the territory. It’s another explanation – not a rational one, but one that shouldn't be ruled out as we don't rule the world and we can't know or control everything. Anyway, my cat’s been in a fight and came home covered in poo, scratched up and limping. The full works! Could the runny poo be down to the wormer?
Right then, well he just needs to ignore him and maybe in time, as long as he doesn't rush things. Try not to speak too loudly and change the way he walks (if you say he comes across as quite confident and imposing etc. etc.) ^^
That’s just the thing, he’s already tried. But it’s as if she can’t even smell it. She’s completely ignoring it because she’s so terrified... We keep trying! I’m going to give Feliway a go; it might help relax her a bit.
Hmm, for starters, maybe your boyfriend could try giving her some treats? Like a bit of ham??! Otherwise, he should just ignore her and she'll come to him when she's ready... but it might take a bit of time.
My brother forces the issue a bit with his, so the cat ends up sleeping or playing for a bit, but mostly he's just trying to escape xD!!
But when my brother is the only one home, the cat still comes to sleep on his bed; he just gravitates towards the only "presence" in the house.
You could also try some Feliway, but in my opinion, he should either try feeding her or just ignore her and wait it out ^^
